The relationship between siblings can be transformational and ever lasting. We of course love all our children but many times we as parents, we are so focused on providing care for the child with a disability that sometimes we are stretched too thin and can’t be there for our other children as much as we would like to be. It’s no one persons fault because we are getting our feet wet on this journey and learning how to cope with experiences that may be new or challenging to the family unit. It is vital to ensure we are meeting the needs of all the children. It’s easier said than done, I know.

Neurotypical siblings will often provide care for their sibling when the parental unit is no longer available or able to provide care for a loved one with autism. It’s important that the sibling get to share how they are feeling without fear of being punished. I am a Certified Sibshops Facilitator and what I always tell the sibs that I encounter, regardless of age, is that their feelings are valid. The happy, supportive feelings are equally valid as potential negative feelings of being a sibling to a loved one with a neurodiversity. Did you know that oftentimes neurotypical siblings feel pressure to be the perfect child because they may feel their parents already have too much on their plate? Even if that means not disclosing something as traumatic as experiencing abuse or assault? Finding a Sibling support group or Sibshop can help your child process their feelings in the hopes that they will be able to talk to you about how they are feeling. And don’t worry there are groups for adult siblings too!